You can heal your inner child.
None of us reaches adulthood without some sort of emotional baggage. Even those of us with “happy” memories of growing up still have work to do to meet the needs we didn’t get met in childhood.
The good news is that as adults we are able to teach ourselves what we didn’t learn as we were growing up.
The @theholisticpsychologist calls this work “Reparenting”.
There are 4 areas to work on as we begin the journey to Reparenting ourselves.
Discipline- exercise, get up early, keep a mediation practice- just do the thing that you have alot of mental resistance to doing. Keeping one small daily promise for 30 days is a good way to begin to practice Discipline.
Self Care- Many of us were taught that it is selfish to put ourselves first. But as Adults we can learn that self care is very important to be the highest best versions of ourselves. Sleep, Nutrition, movement, fresh air- Mind and body are so entertwined- take good care of yourself.
Joy- many of us were not taught that it was okay just to have fun. So we must learn to find joy as adults. Some of us will need to learn what brings us joy. Be playful. Engage in hobby just for the fun of it. Find connection and laughter with people.
Emotional Regulation- if we weren’t taught how to manage our emotional reactions we get stuck in flight/fight or shut down and the world doesn’t seem safe. We must do the work to establish a baseline of resilience. Meditation and breathework are wonderful ways to build emotional regulation.
And please remember, we did not learn these concepts in childhood because our parents did not learn them themselves. These patterns are generational. You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot teach what you do not know.
So make the decision today to begin to Reparent yourself. Once you heal your inner child, the highest best version of you will unfold.
