When we experience a challenging relationship with someone in our lives it can be difficult to know what we can do to make it better & affect real change.  

This an be an especially difficult situation when the other person is in a position of power over you such as a boss. It might seem like there is nothing you can do. 

But there is one thing you can do - You can do You.

You are in control. 

Of your feelings & reactions. Of your judgements & interpretations. Of your focus & compassion.  

“You can’t control other people, you can only control yourself”- we have all heard some version of this quote before. However, do you truly realize that superpower you have available to you? 

You have the power to change the situation just by changing yourself. It sounds like the stuff of fantasy, however you can actually affect things around you when you decide to change yourself. 

Let’s go back to the example of the “bad” boss. Say you find yourself working for a very demanding person who doesn’t communicate in the way you would like them to and seems to be adding to your workload without seemingly seeing your true potential. Sounds like a intolerable situation, right? 

You can of course try voicing your concerns, setting boundaries and hoping they will change. However there is a simpler way- just try Doing You. 

If you are skeptical just try this for a short time- just for one week try only focusing on what You are doing and how You can look at the situation differently. 

When those feelings of frustration arise ask yourself: 

What story am I telling myself right now? How am I adding to this negative situation?  What if I let go of judgement? What if I choose compassion? How could this be different if I changed my focus? Could I find the gratitude in this moment? 

Be kind and gentle with yourself as you do through this process of Doing You. The work of becoming conscious and observing our choices and behaviors is big work. And it is life changing work. 

We are all Energy. We are all connected. You have the power to change your life. Just try Doing You. Send out what you want back. And watch the Magic happen.